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Death threats against bloggers are NOT "protected speech" (why I cancelled my ETech presentations)
Update: I could not bear to leave this post up on the site, as one of the last things people will see and remember about this blog -- and especially with that horrible photo. So, I have moved the post to a separate web page here. The content is exactly as it was posted, athough it lost some formatting. Comments are closed (after 1100 of them), but you can still read them here. I deleted only one comment from this thread.
Posted by Kathy on April 6, 2007 | Permalink
Comments
Wow - that just sucks. I just found your blog recently and it is an amazing read - very thought provoking.
It's a shock to read about all that hassle you have to endure - I wonder how that type of stuff even gets crossed over into this subject matter. Strange.
Some people are mighty sick that's for sure.
Posted by: Andrew | Mar 26, 2007 2:00:18 PM
I'm really sorry to see that this happening. Not cool.
Posted by: Robby Russell | Mar 26, 2007 2:01:23 PM
This post leaves me no faith in humanity. I do not blame you one bit. Your blog is easily in the top 3 blogs I read with any regularity, it would be a shame to see it go, but you should not have to tolerate death threats. So, if you never post again, I want to take this opportunity for helping me write better software.
Posted by: Nicholas schlueter | Mar 26, 2007 2:02:01 PM
er, i meant, I want to take this opportunity to thank you for helping me write better software.
Posted by: Nicholas schlueter | Mar 26, 2007 2:04:43 PM
It surprises me how hateful and absurdly childish supposed professionals can be.
I have never commented (but lurk) on this site before, but this really got to me. There just isn't an excuse for these comments and photos. None.
I'm sorry you have to live through it.
Posted by: Trey | Mar 26, 2007 2:05:30 PM
OMG this is terrible. I am speechless. I wish I was some monster hacker that could trace the blog entries through IP. This is just criminal. I wish I can say a million more things but I guess that is just the kind of effect that is desired, so I'll just say this: don't let this get you under. Be safe, stay protected and know that you have a massive support group out there that will help you in any way humanly possible. Just ask.
Posted by: Adeleida | Mar 26, 2007 2:09:52 PM
Well crap.
For once their is an enlightened soul who understands how people think, what they want in their software, AND has the ability to translate that knowledge into written words, only to be silenced through threats.
I have never met you or have heard you speak, but I am certain that I can type these lines of praise without concern for accuracy...your writing alone proves it to me.
Thanks for your efforts and I sincerely hope that this has a positive outcome that includes your blogging again.
Posted by: Andy Broyles | Mar 26, 2007 2:10:00 PM
Way, way out of control. The community needs to rally around: http://www.tbray.org/ongoing/When/200x/2007/03/26/Kathy-Sierra
Posted by: Tim Bray | Mar 26, 2007 2:16:31 PM
Words fail me. No one should have to live through that - and no one should be allowed to get away with doing it.
Posted by: Joanna Young | Mar 26, 2007 2:16:35 PM
Your response to this viciousness is prudent. Take the time to cope and regroup and I hope you come back stronger.
I have always enjoyed your blog and admired your generosity. I can't imagine why anybody would wish you harm.
The nature of these attacks demonstrates both the depravity and ignorance of their authors, and is a stark contrast to your record.
Posted by: Don | Mar 26, 2007 2:22:41 PM
I hope that you get this whole situation solved. How could anyone do something so mean to such a nicer person?
Posted by: Ethan Poole | Mar 26, 2007 2:30:37 PM
Hello Kathy;
I am sorry that you have had to go thru this. Honestly, I've heard of cyberbullying, evne in the blogsphere, but this is way over the edge. I do hope that with the help of the police (and I believe the feds get involved with this at some point too) that those who have issued those threats will not only be brought to justice, but some item of legislation will protect bloggers and the like from this before something wrong happens.
You have my prayers and support, as well as that of my team at Mobile Ministry Magazine.
Posted by: Antoine of MMM/Brighthand | Mar 26, 2007 2:31:30 PM
This sickens and disgusts me. I'm so sorry that you've been made a target. I've read your books and on-line postings and always found them to be inspired. It would sadden me to have an intelligent voice silenced, but I can understand why you'd want to stop. You have my support and best wishes. - MOD
Posted by: Michael | Mar 26, 2007 2:33:25 PM
I am so sorry about this. I hope you keep blogging and speaking. Best wishes to you and your family.
Posted by: Yatima | Mar 26, 2007 2:34:25 PM
Wow. What a terrible experience. I hope you can take some comfort in the support of your readers.
Posted by: TimCost | Mar 26, 2007 2:38:23 PM
I'm shocked and appalled. I've been reading your blog for sometime and it's by far one of the most interesting, inspiring and useful of any I've found. It will be a pity if you choose not to continue, but I understand your feelings. Is there not way to track down these people?
Posted by: Roy | Mar 26, 2007 2:38:33 PM
This totally sucks. I understand your fear and frustration. Hope this will e brought to a stop soon, so you can continue blogging, I really appreciate your posts!
Posted by: Theo Lagendijk | Mar 26, 2007 2:38:39 PM
This is terrible. I hope the police find who's behind this and give them what they deserve. Be strong, and I hope you come back soon.
Posted by: Kingsley | Mar 26, 2007 2:39:35 PM
This is truly disturbing material. The originating site now has been pulled down. And that's good. Because sentiments like these should never see the light of day. Shame on those behind it.
Hang in there Kathy.
Posted by: Joseph Thornley | Mar 26, 2007 2:40:53 PM
I don't understand. It is not acceptable for ANYONE to act this way. But I especially cannot understand why you (Kathy) are the target of this. It's not like you are a controversial figure that is likely to bring out the hate mongers like Ann Coulter or even Michael Moore would.
I love you writings here, I hope that you can find a way to keep it going!
Posted by: Rob Lambert | Mar 26, 2007 2:40:59 PM
Hey,
I discovered your blog a while a go and your insights are so great. I can't understand why somebody would do such thing to you and attack you so personally.
Good luck
Posted by: Javache | Mar 26, 2007 2:41:08 PM
Hey Kathy,
You rock!Those who would stoop to make such anonymous comments are cowards. They type big but would never dare to say that to your face.
They should not only be expelled from the blogosphere, their computers should be confiscated and they should be banned from using them for a period of decades.
Hang in there.
Glenn
Posted by: Glenn (Customer Service Experience) Ross | Mar 26, 2007 2:42:11 PM
So sorry about this and I will do my best to get this post seen by other people...
Chin up, remember the vast majority of us think you're great :)
Posted by: Jon Leighton | Mar 26, 2007 2:47:00 PM
Kathy,
Hang in there. I've been a victim of cyber-bullying in the past thanks to my rather high-profile position in a user community meeting a serial troll. But never have I heard of it to this degree.
I enjoy your blog and your ability to communicate complex ideas in ways we can all understand and apply. I truly hope you keep blogging--but even more than that, I hope the authorities catch and prosecute the people responsible for the threats.
Best wishes,
-Tim
Posted by: Tim Courtney | Mar 26, 2007 2:50:03 PM
Kathy,
I've recently been the target of several personal attacks on the Internet by (of course) anonymous people, but your experience makes all that pale in comparison. Reading your post affected me physically--I felt like I'd been punched in the stomach. I don't know what to say to make you--or me for that matter--feel any better, but I didn't want to be silent in response. Just know that there are normal, mature, professional, respectful people out there reading your words, and that we're on your side. I don't know what it would be, but if there's ever anything I can do to help just let me know.
Regards,
Charlie Wood
Posted by: Charlie Wood | Mar 26, 2007 2:50:18 PM
Now THAT's f-ed up! You have my deepest sympathies!
To be honest, I'm quite speechless. Are these people mad? I hope they are brought to justice.
Daniel
Posted by: Winsmith | Mar 26, 2007 2:52:02 PM
Like so many others have already said, I hope you hang in there, Kathy.
This site is a total inspiration. As disgusted as I am with the people who think that this sort of thing is acceptable, I hope you can overcome the bullying. This industry needs more voices like yours, not less.
Take care,
Joshua
Posted by: Joshua Marshall | Mar 26, 2007 2:52:46 PM
It's a real shame!
Hang in there Kathy.
Posted by: herbert | Mar 26, 2007 2:53:56 PM
Sorry to hear you are having this problem from a very sick tiny minority. You are in my prayers.
Posted by: Charles Cook | Mar 26, 2007 2:54:19 PM
Gosh, this is truely sad. You do great authoring and you're a wonderful teacher and you do not deserve this. I think you've done the right thing by calling in the police. But if you miss out on your talks, start to malfunction, don't get out on your yard, then they have won. You can't let people control you like this, its your life and you've come this far. You can't stop now. I hope you recover soon and get back in the game. May God protect you.
Posted by: Nash | Mar 26, 2007 2:54:25 PM
Hey, Kathy!
Very sorry to hear that these creeps are making you miserable. Do whatever you need to do get re-centred, feel safe and recharged. I'm sure that all your fans -- of whom I am one -- will all stick by you and greet you warmly when you feel ready.
As lots of people have already said (and I'm sure even more will say), hang in there!
Posted by: Joey deVilla | Mar 26, 2007 2:54:30 PM
Kathy,
That sucks, I'm so sorry that happened, I sincerely hope it doesn't stop you from blogging or speaking. Take care of yourself, do what you need to do to feel safe...
And I'm glad you're calling in the police, blogging about this openly, and I consider that extremely brave & awesome. You are kicking MAJOR ass just by doing that.
Also, I went and looked immediately at what Jeaneane had to say, as I do know her from Blogher and consider her a colleague, a friend, and a fellow feminist. My immediate reaction was, "Jeneane would never support that kind of stuff!" Apparently she was not part of that blog, and says:
"Update 3: Let me be more specific -- I did not join or logon to uncebobism. I did not add myself to the blog. When i linked to the blog in this post, it had a witty post about twitter. By the time I got out of the hospital, the blog was gone and I had not read it in days."
I'd definitely like to know who authored those threats and derogatory sexual comments.
Thanks again for going public with this, and calling it out in public, instead of letting it be backchannel secret gossip that other women like me might never find out about until we become the recipients of this sort of thing. You rock.
Posted by: Liz Henry | Mar 26, 2007 2:55:30 PM
Just wanted to add my support, it would be a great shame if you stopped writing not just because the world would be worse off for lacking your insight, but because it would be a great shame for such bullying tactics to hang over you and stop you from doing what it appears you love.
I really hope that someone can get to the bottom of this and make it stop and I really hope that you can then move on and live the life that you want to.
Best wishes and my prayers are with you.
Posted by: Adrian Sutton | Mar 26, 2007 2:55:56 PM
Pretty sad statement about the shape of the blogging world right now. I saw you speak at SXSW last year, and I like the Headrush books. But I had never been to your blog before. I'm not sure how anything you say can create such a strong emmotional reaction in anyone. Clearly these people just get off on talking shit on blogs because they don't have the guts to say something in person. Very sad.
Posted by: Ed Shull | Mar 26, 2007 2:56:51 PM
WTF!?
Posted by: Rene Visco | Mar 26, 2007 2:56:58 PM
I always look forward to when I can read a new article on your blog, because I know it will be a great read. It would be a loss seeing it go only because of a bunch of idiots.
As Tim Bray wrote, this story needs to be dug out and brought out in the open. Apologies are the bare minimum we can demand if any semblance of decency can survive in the blogosphere.
Keep up the good work.
Posted by: Ugo Cei | Mar 26, 2007 2:57:07 PM
Dear Kathy,
As all the others who have responded, and as every other living, thinking, caring being should, I am deeply saddened to hear what you have experienced. I simply do not understand why people have to take their misery out on others -- and I understand even less, why you of all people. Your generosity and dedication to your readers is just admirable and cannot be praised enough.
As much as I enjoy reading your blog, which has taught me many things, I fully understand if you wish to stop being a presence in the blogosphere. Whether you decide to keep writing posts or not, I am sure that we are many that will support you any way we can. What has happened to you is simply outrageous and should stopped for the sake of you and other potential victims.
Somehow I have a feeling, that we shall hear from you again. I can understand that you have fears, but I suspect that your way out of them will be through writing.
All the best
Mikkel
Posted by: Mikkel Bo Rasmussen | Mar 26, 2007 3:00:49 PM
Though I have never commented on your blog, I always enjoy reading your articles. They are very insightful and make me think.
This story makes me angry and sad. Hopefully you'll grow even stronger.
All the best,
Carsten
Posted by: Carsten Poetter | Mar 26, 2007 3:01:20 PM
Shocked and dismayed... I too have valued your posts and I really hope that you will recover from this and continue on.
I don't quite know how to phrase this well, but I hope that you can shift your focus away from those few terrible people and let the positive comments here help to bolster your spirits.
Best wishes for recovery and healing...
Posted by: Michael G | Mar 26, 2007 3:01:56 PM
Kathy, I am terribly saddened to hear what you have gone through. Your blog has been a shining light for many of us, and I am sorry to see anything stop you from writing... but safety comes first. Best of luck, and I hope the instigators of this are caught and punished.
Posted by: Ben Langhinrichs | Mar 26, 2007 3:02:49 PM
Dear Kathy,
I'm horrified by this. I just don't understand why people are like this.
Continued blogging? That's obviously your call. It would be a great loss to the community if you didn't post again. I'd like to add my thanks for all the wonderful postings you have given us. Your blog is the one I eagerly check daily.
Take care.
Kindest regards
Steven Lilley
Posted by: Steven Lilley | Mar 26, 2007 3:03:32 PM
I read your post awhile ago and tried to go back to work but I just feel sick. I absolutely love your blog and I read it very regularly. I'm just shaking my head; what is wrong with people?
Be strong; this will pass.
Posted by: Jim S. | Mar 26, 2007 3:03:43 PM
Absolutely unbelievable. My stomach physically lurched when reading this. I am so sorry you are in this horrible situation.
Your blog is by far the best one I read, and I hope it doesn't go away... but moreso I hope that you remain safe and strong.
I can't believe anyone would do this.
Posted by: Gordon Withers | Mar 26, 2007 3:04:58 PM
Liz -
I urge you to look a little deeper into Jeneane's activities surrounding this. Do a few searches, follow a few links. See what questions have gone unanswered.
Bert
Posted by: Bert Bates | Mar 26, 2007 3:05:43 PM
Kathy, what police did you turn this into? What was their response? Did you turn this into the FBI, or your local police department?
That comment is from a Spanish IP address. It doesn't look it's connected at all with the other part of your post related to Jeneane, Alan, Frank, and Chris. Are you implying that they're responsible for this?
I think a lot of people need to be very careful right now, about what they say, and how they react.
Posted by: Shelley | Mar 26, 2007 3:05:59 PM
Hi Kathy,
That completely sucks. I had no idea there were sites like that. I'm so sorry some disturbed people have written those things. That is completely unacceptable.
I hope you'll take all neccesary precations. I also hope that you will keep writing with your usual courage and insight.
I read a book that speaks to very similar situations called The Gift of Fear. It might be useful to you.
http://www.amazon.com/Gift-Fear-Gavin-Becker/dp/0440226198
Take care and know that you have a supportive community,
B.
Posted by: B. | Mar 26, 2007 3:06:46 PM
Dear God, Kathy.
We're all behind you. I, for one, hope they find this sick bastard and throw the book at him.
In the meantime, I have some REALLY big dogs you're welcome to borrow.
Posted by: Mary Beth Sancomb-Moran | Mar 26, 2007 3:07:22 PM
First, this kind of behavior doesn't belong to the tech world...hell, it doesn't belong anywhere. Don't let crap like that get you down, though. There are idiots everywhere.
Second, the obligatory macho comment: whoever he is, he's welcome to come and tell it to me in person. And I'm just shy of super heavyweight class.
Posted by: Stan Schroeder | Mar 26, 2007 3:11:39 PM
Kathy, that really, really sucks. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this.
I wish we could raise a mob of friends/people who love you and this blog, and inflict some kind of psychological (and physical!) protection and reassurance around you, sort of the opposite of what these vicious cowards have done.
Hang in there!
Posted by: Josh Bancroft | Mar 26, 2007 3:11:51 PM
Kathy, I'm sorry to hear about this. You're a brilliant and awesome ass kicker in so many ways and it sucks that some a$$holes are ruining your life and our participation in it. You have made such a big difference in the way I think about writing software that it's just ridiculous. I hope you can get back to sharing yourself with us and I hope the person(s) behind this get arrested for it.
Posted by: Chris Norris | Mar 26, 2007 3:12:29 PM
Am completely shocked. Just hang in there!
Posted by: John Orford | Mar 26, 2007 3:14:12 PM
Don't know what to say that I haven't already said. You have my number if you'd like to call and talk about any of this. I made my bed by my association with MeanKids and BobsYerUncle. I'll sleep in it. But as I've said before, I'm sorry and ashamed about what happened to you. People crossed boundaries that I wouldn't cross.
Posted by: fp | Mar 26, 2007 3:15:31 PM
I concur with all above and especially Tim Bray. This is unacceptable. Free speech does not cover threats to a person, that's why it's illegal. Let's hope for your, and all our sakes, that this sick person(s) are caught and punished to the fullest extent of the law.
Posted by: Tris Hussey | Mar 26, 2007 3:16:32 PM
I have been stalked on the Internet for something that I blogged, albeit with another byline, and I do know how real the agression is. I did not get death threats, and that does cross the line in any jurisdiction, but I did get the blunt mysogeny and the raw agression. I knew who my stalker was, I also knew that the threat was real, appropriate measures were taken, and I know that you will need the support of your family and professionals to deal with what is indeed a very real threat.
On the grand scale of things, this is very unfortunate and totally unacceptable, it is however necessary to continue the fight which is nothing more than a fight for human rights and dignity. Learn to deal with your fear, do not let them win, but let them think that they have won.
Posted by: Dannie Jost | Mar 26, 2007 3:18:28 PM
It's a sad story, you have my deepest sympathies. Be strong!
Posted by: Johan F | Mar 26, 2007 3:18:49 PM
This is so many colors of wrong. I adore this blog, and Kathy's voice. May it return stronger and better than ever.
As a side comment for the designers out there: give the web a "no violence here" or "play nice" or "safe place" banner(s). Something bloggers can put on their own blogs in support of Kathy and others that are attacked by violent trolls. Sort of like the Take Back the Night Marches or the yellow signs that go on businesses as Safe Places for kids.
Another commenter mentioned the fabulous book authored by Gavin de Becker titled Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence. Particularly useful is Gavin's JACA model of threat assessment:
J = Justification (does the threatener feel justified in his behavior?)
A = Alternatives (has the threatener reached the end of his perceived alternatives to violence?)
C = Consequences (does the threatener seem unconcerned about the consequences of his violent act?)
A = Ability (does the threatener have the ability to carry out a violent act?)
I urge every woman to buy Gavin's book. Even if your life is sunshine and butterflies at the moment. Frankly, it's the kind of book you should read before you ever need it. Consider it emergency response training.
But back to my original point: Kathy, you are a gift. Stay safe. You are loved by more people than you can possibly know. We will do what we can.
Posted by: S.E. August | Mar 26, 2007 3:19:45 PM
Wow. This is staggeringly screwed up. Simply vile. I hope you do continue to blog; count me among the many who would continue to read with interest and enjoyment. Stay safe but don't let this make you a prisoner.
Posted by: Michael Houghton | Mar 26, 2007 3:19:48 PM
Kathy,
I too felt physically ill when I read your post. I hope the police investigation discloses the culprits, and I hope you can get some sense of personal ease soon.
What a sad life your stalker must live, if the only thing he knows to do to feel empowered is to attempt to destroy things of power and beauty that he can never hope to achieve himself.
Don't forget that we are all here and that we care. I know that even a million well-wishers can't take away the fear caused by a single deranged moron, but I hope it can at least make you feel a little less alone.
Stay strong.
Posted by: Pamela | Mar 26, 2007 3:22:07 PM
I'm really sorry to hear all this stuff Kathy. You are an inspirational and excellent blogger, (and one of only two blogs that is tagged with 'brilliant' in my feed-reader :) I hope that you find the strength you need to transcend this horrid nastiness.
Remember that it requires comparatively little effort or skill to be mean, crass and to criticize than it does to be brilliant. This behavior is definitely indicative of callous and cruel people - but almost certainly dull and lazy people. Otherwise they would offer some constructive argument on your work, as opposed to 'you are a poo-poo head.'
You're not(a poo-poo head.) I hope you feel better soon.
Posted by: Gordon | Mar 26, 2007 3:22:32 PM
Kathy,
Echoing what's been said above a hundredfold...
Your site is the one I show to managers and clients as a plain-speaking education on how to REALLY help users. I appreciate the clarity of thinking and illustration of concepts that you provide. I've never heard of the people you mentioned. I'm glad that the authorities are involved, and I hope that helps you to feel safer. The positive side of the community is obviously rallying around you. Too bad there isn't JUST a positive side.
Hang in there and do whatever it is you need to do to take care of yourself and your loved ones. I hope to see more from you when you're ready.
-- Lisa Hoppes
Posted by: Lisa Hoppes | Mar 26, 2007 3:22:49 PM
This is probably the most horrible thing i have ever read about online abuse. I am a big fan of your work here on your blog, because it makes me think about things in positive new new ways. It makes me so sad to see positivity met with such negativity.
Posted by: Kwotem | Mar 26, 2007 3:24:28 PM
Kathy, if you leave now, you are just giving all these cowards exactly what they want. You are giving them victory. Please, don't punish people who likes you, and just ignore these pitiful morons hiding behind anonymity. This is by far the best course of action.
Posted by: David Brabant | Mar 26, 2007 3:24:30 PM
Just wanted to add my voice to the many offers of support here. What has happened to you is absolutely appalling and makes me feel so angry and worried for you. I just hope that in time you recover because we will all miss your posts. You have indeed created some passionate users.
Posted by: Archaeogeek | Mar 26, 2007 3:25:29 PM
Wow. I hope that the people responsible are prosecuted to the full extent of the law. I also hope and encourage your to continue blogging, speaking, and engaging the community.
Posted by: Edward O'Connor | Mar 26, 2007 3:27:48 PM
Kathy, all I can say is, hold onto your loved ones for support, and keep your chin up. You're right to be angry, and you're right to be afraid. But don't let that fear run your life, either. It just gives the people who do this kind of crap more power.
Posted by: fiat lux | Mar 26, 2007 3:28:31 PM
As Tim Bray says, out of control. You know that old saying that you heard alot in kindergarten: "If you don't have something nice to say, ...".
What point is served by this? If that's the highest effective level of their communication, then it is pathetic.
As mentioned in some of the other comments, criticize away - that's your right and obligation. But please, if you want anyone to actually listen - drop the threats. It is childish, boorish, and illegal.
Posted by: John Minnihan | Mar 26, 2007 3:28:51 PM
I've always believed this is a self-correcting community. Well folks, we need to correct this absolutely unacceptable, abusive, illegal and heinous behavior.
Kathy, your community is with you. Your abusers will not win this one, oh no, unless they are ready to take on the rest of us, who greatly outnumber these sick and twisted people who are obviously jealous of your success.
Keep being yourself, don't stop and let the bastards EVER win.
Posted by: Molly E. Holzschlag | Mar 26, 2007 3:29:00 PM
This came as quite a shock, Kathy. Your blog has always had such a positive and upbeat spirit, and like another reader commented, nothing terribly controversial that anyone would want to silence or shut down. I can only fathom that it (whether "it" is an actual intention or just a sick way of thinking) stems from severe psychological issues pertaining to self and to women. The initial playful bashing on the forums probably escalated to the point where someone felt green-lighted to "go one further" and get away with posting the sick shit that was already in his head.
Defeat the prick. We're behind ya.
Posted by: Keith Handy | Mar 26, 2007 3:29:55 PM
Your voice in this culture is important and obviously and evidently powerful. Powerful women are provocative to some, through all times they have been punished for that. I want to reward you and your brilliant insights, you are fucking amazing combining psykology, socialogy, tech, business and politics. I will do my best to make swedish media shine some light on this violent incident towards freedom of speach in the Web 2.0 era.
Posted by: Elin Alvemark | Mar 26, 2007 3:30:31 PM
Kathy, I am very sorry to hear this. Thank you for having the courage to let us know about this terrible situation, it is really sick. I truly hope that these people are caught and that you can feel safe again. I had no idea about this blog "underworld".
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. I have so much respect for you and what you have accomplished. Don't let the haters win. I hope that this will only make you stronger and that you will come back better than ever!
Posted by: Mark | Mar 26, 2007 3:31:19 PM
As someone who thoroughly enjoys the work you champion and your sense of humor, my stomach churned when I saw that horribly Photoshop'd image of you. I can't imagine what your reaction was or how I would have felt if I saw something like that of me (well, I can imagine how I'd feel, and it's not good). And as someone who thoroughly enjoys sitting in on your presentations, I feel awful that this louse is keeping you from gracing ETech. Hope you can stay strong and continue on in your work and life without this hanging over your head, and it is great for you to have all of this support in your comments. Best to you ...
Posted by: Justin | Mar 26, 2007 3:32:43 PM
Frank,
Your apology means a lot to Kathy and to me.
Bert
Posted by: Bert Bates | Mar 26, 2007 3:32:46 PM
Kathy, your wisdom and generosity have brought benefit to countless people in their work and life. Only the best wishes for you to have happiness and continue your excellent example.
Posted by: Ryan Singer | Mar 26, 2007 3:34:36 PM
Never has the disclaimer above the comment form been as telling:
"Y'all are our invited guests, but if you're being rude and obnoxious we'll let the bouncer toss you. So please, stick to debating and criticizing ideas rather than personal attacks."
Seems pretty clear to me, but I guess it's hard for some to get into their heads...
Posted by: Emil Stenström | Mar 26, 2007 3:34:48 PM
Just wanted to chime in to tell you that I love reading your blog; I thoroughly enjoyed seeing you speak at SXSW, and I'm sending good karma and protective vibes in your direction...
Posted by: Steph Mineart | Mar 26, 2007 3:34:56 PM
This is just awful. But I did want to let you know what a fantastic, wonderful blog you have. I love reading it and get excited everytime I see a new post on my bloglines account.
You write beautifully and have such refreshingly honest and funny charts/visuals. I have many posted on my cube wall and I tell people about you and your blog all the time.
Please keep writing!
Brent
Posted by: Brent | Mar 26, 2007 3:35:15 PM
That's horrible. I was sitting here this morning at etech wondering what happened (I was signed up to see your tutorial). I thought, maybe she got sick, missed her flight, etc. I never thought that someone would threaten your life. That really sucks. Take care, and be safe. I hope you decide to continue blogging.
Posted by: john d | Mar 26, 2007 3:35:50 PM
Kathy,
Like everyone else I am saddened by your departure from the blogosphere. Your blog is one of my favorite and I have recently started loving some of the books in your Head First series. Sorry this had to happen to you, it shouldn't happen to anyone.
Good luck with everything.
Posted by: Eric A | Mar 26, 2007 3:36:31 PM
Kathy,
As all the others I am shocked and angry.
Of course you need to take time to work this out, but please also know that there are so many out here that you have such a positive effect on.
Selfishly, I hope that you find the strengh within your self to come back to blogging soon. You will certain be missed until you do.
Posted by: Earl | Mar 26, 2007 3:36:41 PM
I've been reading your work off and on now for about a year and I love it. I hope you come back soonest.
Posted by: CR Haynes | Mar 26, 2007 3:36:52 PM
Hi Kathy,
Long time reader, first time poster. I really hope that the police get to the bottom of this and prosecute those found guilty. People can stoop so low, be so unkind, it really does make you wonder. Hope that you get over this and will return to your old self once again.
Posted by: Serdar Kilic | Mar 26, 2007 3:37:35 PM
I'm sorry to hear that. Your blog is wonderful, and I too add my voice to the many offers of support mentioned above.
Posted by: Tim | Mar 26, 2007 3:38:20 PM
This is a disgusting turn of events. But please don't stop writing. Good that you've made this public. Slimeballs hate the light.
Posted by: B.L. Ochman | Mar 26, 2007 3:42:40 PM
Kathy,
First, hang in there. What you just did was very brave and courageous, and you have my full support.
Second, while I have not received nearly the level of cyberbullying that you have, I too have been the object of a particular individual's advocations of violence (including rape and sodomization) on their blog (the offending posts were subsequently removed but can still be found in at least one search engine). Even a single individual doing this made me afraid enough to avoid the vicinity of events (including two "conferences") that this individual was/is likely to attend (and has attended). I cannot imagine what it must feel like to have *several* individuals do so, especially in an apparently coordinated fashion. Yikes. And ((hugs)).
I applaud your courage, and thank you for going public with your experience. We must shine as bright a light as possible on these cockroaches (no offense to actual cockroaches), provide them no rock to hide under, and publicly hold them accountable for their crimes.
Please let me know how I can help in any way.
Tantek Çelik - http://tantek.com
Chief Technologist
Technorati
Posted by: Tantek Çelik | Mar 26, 2007 3:45:12 PM
What a bunch of twisted SCUM BAGS.
Kathy, nobody should have to go through that, offline or online. Just assume that you're not going mad and that 99.9% of your readers are behind you. The other .1% are twisted bastards. That's the FIRST time I've used bad language online!
Posted by: Paul Walsh | Mar 26, 2007 3:46:44 PM
Kathy,
I saw you speak for the first time at SXSW and love what you have to say about speaking with passion. I hope those responsible are found and subjected to the force of law.
keep strong.
Posted by: Rachel | Mar 26, 2007 3:48:30 PM
Hi Kathy,
Sorry to hear about this. It makes me very sad. There are some sickos out there. This shows you the dark side of "fame" and "success."
Back in the 80s and 90s, when I was selling a lot of copies of "A Whack on the Side of the Head" and "A Kick in the Seat of the Pants" [creativity books], 98% of my mail was great. But there was the 2% that would send me the strangest stuff.
I remember one in particular in which the writer had gone through my book and torn out all of the pictures, and then cut the eyes out and pasted the pictures on cardboard. This was the accompanying note: "These people look dead. Do you like dead people, Roger? Do you like death?"
That's one reason that I've typically used my PO Box as my mailing address.
Kathy, my thoughts are with you.
Posted by: Roger von Oech | Mar 26, 2007 3:49:06 PM
I concur with everyone that says these violent comments are unacceptable behavior. Your blog is important and entertaining and I hope there is some way to make the psychopaths go away so you can continue writing.
I would join a militia to protect you and your family if I could. But I bet there are thousands of people that would send you money so you can buy a pack of scary dogs or something.
And take inspiration from the woman in
this story.
She was quite courageous.
Posted by: Rob Nelson | Mar 26, 2007 3:49:16 PM
Kathy - you are truly wonderful. I strongly believe in Karma and you have put out immense amounts of positive Karma to me and your other readers and we appreciate it profoundly. These abusive folks have taken on some incredibly bad Karma and I would not want to be anywhere near them in a lightning storm! I hope you can feel our love and prayers.
PS - how about a very big cute looking, but super protective dog that you take with you when you speak? That would be awesome on so many levels - seriously. And think of all the positive neuron firings that would take place with such a cute dog (with very big teeth) ;)
Posted by: Matt Jaynes | Mar 26, 2007 3:50:22 PM
This is just wrong. This / these guys) have a problem, and I have encountered this irrationality from one of them before, so if its him, I am NOT surprised. I note none of the names mentioned have denied responsibility, and claimed horror at their names being used this way.
Hang in there Kathy ... its a small step, but everyone should unsubscribe from any blogs of these people. Your blog is too valuable, and whomever is responsible is obviously a weak coward.
Posted by: Colin Henderson | Mar 26, 2007 3:51:31 PM
I really don't know how to say it right but I'm sorry for what are you going through. Their shamelessness is absurd. Take all the time in the world but I'm sure you will put this behind. Going public means you're definetely stronger than those people threating anonymously.
Take care
Posted by: Lawrence Oluyede | Mar 26, 2007 3:51:32 PM
Kathy,
Every obnoxious act is a cry for help - and I hope the person instigating these threats finds some soon.
Selfishly, I (and probably a hearty "we") hope you post again, but if you don't - it's understandable.
You've made a difference - I'm sure you'll continue in some manner to do so. You've created a community of passionate users, teaching us all so much along the way.
Stay contagious - whether online or offline.
Posted by: Mike Sansone | Mar 26, 2007 3:51:37 PM
Kathy:
I just got back from one of the worst customer service experiences at Best Buy and my blood was "just off the boil" already. Then I read this and it pushes me over the top.
Whoever these worthless, chicken, spineless, gutless freaks are they should be hunted down. There is no reason for any such behavior. One thing is for sure, when you get back to the comfort level of being able to go to conferences, the community around you will make sure of your safety. Granted, I can only speak for myself, but I highly doubt I'm alone in my thinking.
Hang in there.
Posted by: Kevin Behringer | Mar 26, 2007 3:52:49 PM
Dear Kathy, you are in my thoughts and I send you all my love and best wishes. I hope that you are able to carry on writing for the people who love and appreciate you and that the scum who have been threatening you and creating these sick websites get what they deserve very soon. Yours aye, Jess x x
Posted by: Jess | Mar 26, 2007 3:56:35 PM
Kathy
I am still new to blogging. I have long read and enjoyed your blog, and occasionally posted comments on it. But I had no idea that there was such a dark side to blogging too.
I wish you all the courage you need to see this ordeal through, all the love from family & friends you need to keep you going and all the determination you need to get back to blogging again when it is over.
We are all thinking of you in your hour of need.
Graham Hill, Köln, Germany
Posted by: Graham Hill | Mar 26, 2007 3:56:44 PM
Kathy,
I am really sorry to hear about this, it is not something anyone should ever experience.
I have been a long time reader of this excellent site and you have enlightened many people and myself with your thoughts and ideas.
I hope the police will get to the button of this, and return your life to normal. As many people have already said you have my full support and I will gladly offer any help you might need.
Thomas Baekdal
Baekdal.com
Posted by: Thomas Baekdal | Mar 26, 2007 3:56:55 PM
I've been a passionate reader of your blog for a long time- this is the first time that I'm posting a comment.
All of us who come here so often *love* your work and admire what you do- don't give up, we'll do our best to support you. Let's hope these awful individuals receive punishment for what they've done.
Posted by: Greg | Mar 26, 2007 3:57:50 PM
This is horrible! It's easy for me to say, but don't let this bastard grind you down.
Posted by: Chris Nixon | Mar 26, 2007 4:01:07 PM
It is endemdic over at youtube to the point of attacking children and people with disabilities, and of course, the favorite target of lowlifes everywhere - outspoken women. Many people on youtube have crumbled under the attack. Not everyone has emotions stunted by single-person shooters.
The excuse given over and over again by these troglodytes is it is 'just the internets' and one should 'grow a .
What I want to know is why is it the least evolved among us that get to determine net culture and rules. I would like to see prominent net leaders and business people (I'm talking to YOUTUBE!) - take this crap on. And all you Dads I'm talking to you too.
It is not freedom of speech. Agressive enforcement of established sign on aggreements should be enough, but theydon't do it. Yes I know people can just start up new accounts.
WE HAVE TO CHANGE THE CULTURE.
And I ask you where is all this hate coming from...people's boy children mostly...and why is that?
Go home tonight and talk to the young men and boys in your family about this. Tell them if they want to grow up to be men worth knowing they won't engage in this. Put a face to the pain they cause and ask how they would feel if their mother or sister was on the recieving end.
Attacking strangers 'for the lolz' is a pathetic pastime.
Posted by: Cityzenjane | Mar 26, 2007 4:01:18 PM
My god, Kathy. That's just beyond the pale. I hope what Molly said about this being "[...] a self-correcting community" is true; I also applaud your courage for posting this obviously fraught and difficult entry. Ugh. My faith in humanity is taking a hit today.
Posted by: Jessica Beck | Mar 26, 2007 4:05:30 PM
Kathy,
I was shocked to read your most recent post. I'm so sorry for what you've been going through - especially after all you have offered the world through you blog. I'm always amazed at the helpful, positive, original, createive, and well-written posts you consistently create. I completely understand why you would stop wirting but I hope you know you will be missed.
Thanks for all the encouragement and inspiration you've provided us. I hope we can now return it back to you.
Matt
Posted by: Matt | Mar 26, 2007 4:05:45 PM
More clues? He seems to be one of the posters at MeanKids and has contributed:
a vandalized Wikipedia page
Unencyclopaedia page
I really don't understand hate. I got threats just before I entered uni. What's the point, really?
Posted by: Tiara | Mar 26, 2007 4:05:46 PM
Kathy, I was outraged to hear about what you've had to go through. Be strong -- my thoughts are with you.
Posted by: Aral Balkan | Mar 26, 2007 4:05:53 PM
Absolutely ridiculous. Kathy, you add much value to the community - through your blog, your work, and your plainspoken talks that help to foster not only best practices, but also dynamic community dialogues.
None of us can 'talk away' the fear that comes from these threats, but we're all waiting here on your side. Not to mention, unwilling to let misogynistic bullying win.
Posted by: Christine Herron | Mar 26, 2007 4:06:46 PM
It’s an absolute shame, if not ironic, that such a brilliant person, who so thoroughly understands and is able to explain the intricacies of computer user behavior, has fallen victim to the antics of such a disturbed computer user. Kathy Sierra has taught me how to become a better software developer, and I have always looked forward to reading her insights. How anyone could find reason to hate her for what she does is beyond me or any other sane member of the human race. Unfortunately, that’s not who she is dealing with. Should Kathy choose to permanently withdraw from the blogosphere as a result of these events, I think we would all understand. However, she will be sorely, sorely missed.
I suspect that much anger and outrage will be expressed in the blogoshere over this topic. And as strong as my emotions are over this, I will not offer a call to action or an opinion of what should happen. Rather, I will suggest that Kathy has many friends in this community and that our demonstration of support for her is much more helpful than any witch hunt or mob action. Let law enforcement do there job, while you, as a friend of Kathy Sierra, send her your love and support.
Posted by: Sean | Mar 26, 2007 4:06:56 PM
Kathy, I'm heartsick to read this! I just discovered your blog last week, and I have been so impressed. I've been going through the archives and sending links to my friends. I hate that this has been done to you.
Sending tons of fellow feeling and outraged support your way.
Posted by: LauraJMixon | Mar 26, 2007 4:07:34 PM
someone mentioned a 'tiny sick minority' - I encourage you to go to see a youtube firneds video and the THOUSANDS of sick comments she got.
Things have shifted people and you are not seeing it - This is horrible but in no way an isolated case...Whatever you think of the creative merit of this video or it getting featured - consider the comments - take the time to read a big dose. When someone gets featured this is what they have too look forward to:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2JFCYqT8bu8
Posted by: Cityzenjane | Mar 26, 2007 4:08:29 PM
Kathy, bringing these issues out into the open here is an amazing display of courage.
It makes me wonder how many other bloggers, and also how many other women in technology, have faced similar problems and have tried to deal with it by themselves.
We need to shout from the rooftops that this sort of behaviour is not ok. I've been seeing personal attacks in the comments of a lot of tech blogs recently (although not scary ones like this). I can't fathom what sort of mind makes the jump from "I don't agree with your position in that article" to "I'm going to start insulting who you are as a person", let alone going to the extent of the harassment which you have experienced.
Lots of people are wishing you strength. Clearly you've got plenty of that already. Instead, I'll wish for change.
Posted by: Craig Ambrose | Mar 26, 2007 4:10:16 PM
Dear Kathy,
Unfortunately, whatever I might say won't help a whole lot but I do feel I need to show my support. The blogosphere, both bloggers and lurkers, and geeks of all shapes and sizes support you!
Posted by: Ivan Brezak Brkan | Mar 26, 2007 4:10:38 PM
Kathy,
I wish you and your daughter all the strength to cope up with this and fight back.
Reading about such things makes me believe that evolution has been selective in evolving 'humans'.
Don't let 'them' win. You have our support in whatever way we can.
- Rise
Posted by: Rise | Mar 26, 2007 4:12:11 PM
Kathy,
We read your blog religously and appreciate your wisdom and passion. You've brought a lot of people together and shared some amazing insights into business, community and the online world. You're adored by many.
What a terrible experience, but by going public, you've rallied the troops to support you and fight cyberbullying.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Posted by: jasmine | Mar 26, 2007 4:12:14 PM
Kathy - Adding my voice, concern and support to the growing community who is outraged at what has happened to you. Do what is best for you but please don't stop Passionate Users. On another note, I find it difficult to fathom that Jeneane would be part of this malicious, evil beyond spam.
Posted by: Toby | Mar 26, 2007 4:13:56 PM
I am outraged at this behavior. The blogosphere is not not going to tolerate this, I promise you that!!!
-Jeff O'Hara
http://blog.zemote.com
Posted by: Jeff O'Hara | Mar 26, 2007 4:14:11 PM
Kathy,
That's horrendous. I am so sorry.
Regardless, your ability to bring passion, creativity and clarity to technology is unique and undeniable. I look forward to supporting you and your blog (if only by reading your blog) in the future.
John Ebbert
Posted by: John Ebbert | Mar 26, 2007 4:14:41 PM
Oh, I am so sorry . . . there are sick, sick people out there. I'd be scared, too . . . although I (selfishly) hope this doesn't make you decide to stop blogging, because I enjoy this one so much--you make me think, and that's a good thing. I guess some twisted individuals are just too threatened or insecure or just ill or something . . . Hang in there!
Posted by: --Deb | Mar 26, 2007 4:16:23 PM
Kathy, so very sorry and sad to hear about this. This is so disappointing. Yours is one of the most enjoyable and spirited blogs around, and you are one of my very favorite speakers as well. I hope this blows over, as much as possible, and you're able to feel okay again.
Posted by: Raymond Brigleb | Mar 26, 2007 4:17:07 PM
Hi Kathy
The thought had crossed my mind that this could happen and I am really sad that this has happened. I think that not only will your life never be the same but it sends out warning signals to other women. I had someone post something really nasty as a comment on my blog - a mildly rude comment under the name of my partner and it has been sitting in the back of my mind for the last few days since it happened. This was someone who knew my partners details - name, email etc and was being horrid. That scared me. I can't even begin to imagine the fear you must be going through.
I hope that the support that you have get from those who care helps you to feel a bit safer and that you will be in a safe space soon.
Good luck.
Niqui
Posted by: Niqui Merret | Mar 26, 2007 4:17:16 PM
I just found this site along with your HF Java book which I found great and helpful (even motivating when I had none). As with others, I find all of this disgusting and well, others have expressed it better. All I can say is hang in there and I appreciate what you have done.
Posted by: Leo | Mar 26, 2007 4:19:38 PM
I am so sorry...
Posted by: Ola | Mar 26, 2007 4:19:56 PM
Dear Kathy,
Whether online or offline, the results of abuse are the same and I am glad that you have involved law enforcement.
We haven't met yet in person, but I have always greatly admired your work. I hope that are ways that the community can assist you in any way that we can, and that you will continue to make such an outstanding contribution. In the meantime, please focus on staying safe and sane in the face of this madness.
Thoughts and best wishes,
Andy Clarke
Posted by: Malarkey | Mar 26, 2007 4:20:14 PM
Kathy, I just came to your blog for the first time through a link on another blog, urging everyone passing through there to stop everything and read this post.
You've been offered comfort many times over, and I can see that you are highly respected and cared for within your community. So I will only note that this ghastly experience has caused your supporters to rally around you, and I congratulate you for having inspired so many good people to take your side. I do hope you'll continue blogging when the worst of the anxiety is over. I look forward to reading your past posts and to reading your thoughts as this situation unfolds.
In the meantime, peace and strength to you and your family.
V.
Posted by: VictoriaB | Mar 26, 2007 4:22:14 PM
This is my first visit to your blog, linked from a post by Seth Godin. Echoing the sentiments of all of the above, it's not right that your life should be irrevocably altered by an anonymous coward who is desperately in need of a lobotomy. In any case, I've added your feed to my RSS newsreader. Clearly you have some important things to say, and I want to hear them. Just wanted you to know that this horrible event has brought you at least one new reader.
In the interest of regaining some peace of mind, you might consider getting a well-trained dog. Put a PayPal donation button on your page and I'll bet there are enough other readers, like me, who are angry enough to contribute just on principle!
Posted by: GeezerGeek | Mar 26, 2007 4:23:08 PM
This is too sick. I'm glad you are taking care of yourself and have the police working on this. You're one of the good guys, someone trying to accomplish something good in the world. You're blog is the best there is, from my perspective. Have courage.
Posted by: Virginia | Mar 26, 2007 4:24:06 PM
Kathy,
This is awful. I'm sick to my stomach after reading about this experience. I can totally understand your discomfort about continuing to blog. I can totally understand you wanting to stay in your house, safe. I can absolutely understand your concern about what your daughter has been subjected to as well. It's absolutely unforgiveable and I am disgusted by the people who did this and others who perhaps have done this to others.
I hope that this police investigation is completed quickly and successfully and results in as many arrests and convictions as it takes to get the offenders off the street and off the web.
I hope that you will return to blogging at some point. I will miss reading your spirited, witty posts. Like many others here, I have appreciated the wisdom that you have shared with all of us. I hope that you will feel safe soon.
Posted by: Dianne | Mar 26, 2007 4:25:20 PM
Kathy I'm so sorry to hear about this. Your writing has encouraged and taught me to think in very positive ways about software, and I'm outraged to hear that someone has decided to intimidate you like this.
I wish I could say it's some crank and to not let it get to you, but I think going to the police is the best step. I sincerely hope the law brings this person or people to full account, and that you can live and work without fear.
Posted by: Todd Sieling | Mar 26, 2007 4:25:58 PM
Kathy,
I'm so sorry that this happened. I feel attacked by this so I can't imagine how much worse this must feel for you. Love and support from us in Cleveland,
Daniel
Posted by: Daniel Steinberg | Mar 26, 2007 4:27:10 PM
Kathy,
If and when you're ready to return to the blogosphere, I'll still be here, as will countless others who turn to you for your uncommonly good sense. I would not be where I am today professionally without your wit, your wisdom, and the much needed kicks-in-the-pants to take of my blinders and really *look* at my business and my relationship with my customers. I owe you a debt of gratitude that I'll never be able to repay. And while they might not ever realize it, I think our customers would probably thank you as well for all of the positive change you've helped to jumpstart within our organization.
Be well. Be safe. And don't let the bastards get you down!
Posted by: Amie Gillingham | Mar 26, 2007 4:27:14 PM
I am so sorry this has happened to you Kathy. I agree with Glen that these creep(s) are a bunch of slimy cowards. Don't ever forget that your blogging has enlightened thousands of people. You're a brilliant woman and super educator. We're all behind you!
Posted by: Robyn Rebollo | Mar 26, 2007 4:28:25 PM
I'm not really sure what to say. This makes me sad and angry. The line hasn't been crossed here—it's been obliterated.
My thoughts are with you. Sorry you have to experience this.
Posted by: David Armano | Mar 26, 2007 4:28:55 PM
...holy crap. I'm sure I'd be even more outraged if my brain actually could get my head around this happening. I mean, you've shown me that it has happened but I really don't want to believe this could happen.
I add my voice to the people who love reading your work, who share it with friends and who sit for a while digesting what you've written after I've read it. Your viewpoint and voice is a great asset. But please, take care of yourself as yourself.
Posted by: Colin Morris | Mar 26, 2007 4:29:24 PM
YIkes...
Sorry you're having to deal with such unnecessary and dark "humor".
It's disturbing how anonymity can encourage then becomes a vehicle for assault. But daylight is such a powerful force; thanks for being the light here! These 'little' witticisms should be certainly be revealed to their peoples mothers, sisters and daughters etc.
Happy Mothers Day.
-Kelly
Posted by: TidalSoup | Mar 26, 2007 4:29:38 PM
Kathy,
This just makes me ill.
I'm taking the rest of the week off of my blog in solidarity with you.
If you don't feel safe at blogger events, neither do I.
Neither does Maryam.
If you want to talk, you know where to find me.
Posted by: Robert Scoble | Mar 26, 2007 4:29:53 PM
Kathy,
I'm terribly sorry this happened. ANYTHING keeping you from your great work is an injustice to us all. I hope the police turn up results just as soon as possible.
In the meantime, for those of us that are insatiable CPU fans, what about creating a subscription model for your blog? Surely trolls like this won't offer up a credit card number for a subscription login! You don't have to charge a lot -- just something to authenticate a reader to a tracable identity.
Or maybe, if you want to go to speaking engagements, you can just ask your loyal readers here to show up in black suits and sunglasses. I, for one, would happily stroll through a conference floor as your personal escort. I'm sure a number of readers would consider playing bodyguard to be a privilege.
Posted by: Nathan T. Freeman | Mar 26, 2007 4:30:21 PM
I'm a big fan of your and was so sorry to hear about the terrible threats. I support whatever you choose to do and only wish you peace and strength. I certainly hope they catch the people who wrote those terrible things and press criminal charges.
Cheers,
Michael
Posted by: Michael Longfellow | Mar 26, 2007 4:30:22 PM
Kathy,
I just want to add my name to the list of people who wish you well and hope that this will all be over soon.
Take care
Joe
Posted by: Joe | Mar 26, 2007 4:31:34 PM
Kathy,
This is a remarkable blog - and your remarkable personality comes shining through it. Creative, passionate, client-centered, warm, funny, are all qualities which come through clearly. I am so very sorry that you have encountered Evil in this way. I pray for your actual safety and also that you will feel safety.
I support your response to the Evil. Count me among those who will look forward to your return to posting. I am not even in your field, and yet this is the only blog I look at daily.
Warmly,
Wayne
Posted by: WayneM | Mar 26, 2007 4:32:15 PM
Okay, not acceptable behaviour.
I write this as someone you don't know, another anonymous joe on the 'net, but I greatly admire your work and this blog, I've have been for the.. well since the beginning mostly.
Keep on doing it, keep on enjoying it and don't forget why you love what you do because of one distraught idiot.
I expect obnoxious from Locke but this is bordering freaky, and I say that as someone who gets his freak a few times a month.
I'm all for getting you a big mastiff or amstaff dog and would like to contribute in whichever direction if possible.
Keep safe and well.
Regards
Robert Renling
Posted by: case | Mar 26, 2007 4:32:39 PM
That sucks...I just started reading your blog and I am disappointed that a few can ruin it for the many! Good luck.
Posted by: Su | Mar 26, 2007 4:32:46 PM
Kathy,
I have been reading your posts the last year or so and always find they stimulate thought and generate ideas. I am horrified that for the want of a better word "idiots" are prepared to post this filth. The shear number of comments on your blog today is testament to how the vast majority of people think. I know it must be scary but you are an inspiration to many, especially women like me, who are new to blogging and want to be heard not abused. You deliver a fantastic service and you can't let these bXXXXXXX win.
Posted by: Katie Ledger | Mar 26, 2007 4:33:17 PM
I promise this won't be a long post (mostly because I don't have time to write everything I want to say). But I had a lump in my throat while reading this post. Yours is not the first or the last that has been posted about the treatment of women writers online, both in "traditional" news media and "blog" media. As the only female staff member at Ars Technica, I have had my share of threats and whatnot as well over the years. Explicit rape threats, people hunting out my phone number and making repeated threatening phone calls throughout the night, people showing up at my door (by the way, my address is not listed anywhere online or offline), of course e-mail, real mail with oddball things inside, and my head was photoshopped onto a photo of someone being raped.
And then yes, the minute you point it out, you're "getting your panties in a wad" over a "joke" and "can't take the heat."
It's disgusting and unacceptable, but people allow it to go on. Other people--guys, women, anyone--who see or hear this kind of thing going on shouldn't just stand by and say "well I'm not involved." You're not, but your silence tells us that you don't care.
I've thought about quitting many times. Right now I'm on an upswing, but that only means that the next downswing will be even worse. Every time it happens, it chips away at your sanity.
Anyway, I'm sorry.
Posted by: Jacqui Cheng | Mar 26, 2007 4:33:38 PM
Kathy,
Don't let the minority bully you. You do great work and I for one really appreciate being able to learn from you through this blog and the podcasts of your speeches at different conferences. If you came to Australia to talk I'd be there.
I hope this isn't your last post. It would be a shame to end on such a sad note, and I look forward to hearing more from you in the future.
Posted by: Gareth | Mar 26, 2007 4:34:25 PM
It is good to see all the well deserved support you have. There is no excuse for this type of behavior and it is my wish that they are caught and dealt with so that you can continue doing what you love and recover from the fear which is not easy.
Posted by: Peter | Mar 26, 2007 4:35:01 PM
I am shocked and am deeply sorry to hear about these events. You are a great speaker and author. Take care of yourself, and thank you for posting on this topic to highlight the scum that is out there. Your post is a brave act and we, your readers, thing you are a great person.
Posted by: Ozten | Mar 26, 2007 4:36:05 PM
I hope the people responsible actually do something about this. I truly enjoyed your blog and book. I wish you good luck on whathever you decide to do.
Gustavo Beathyate
Lima, Peru
Posted by: Gustavo Beathyate | Mar 26, 2007 4:37:18 PM
Kathy,
A long time ago I was stalked for a little while (it's a bit of an odd situation considering that I'm a male and that rarely happens). I don't really talk about too much and funny enough, I guess the only people who know about it besides my wife and some close friends are now the people reading this comment. ;) It was honestly one of the more painful times of my life and I empathize with what you are going through right now, though my experiences obviously don't compare.
I think you are a fabulous voice in the community and I will be very sorry if you end up leaving because of this. Your book and blog have been an inspiration to me.
I hope and pray that you come back - but if you don't I wish you well and thank you for everything you have contributed for us.
Posted by: Justice~! | Mar 26, 2007 4:37:22 PM
Best wishes to you at this hard time, Kathy. Forgive me for stirring any controversy, but I really think this stuff should lead us all to reflect on the thorny issue of pornography. Many argue that it should be as highly protected as any other form of speech, but those who have had any contact with people who are affected by it know that it is highly addictive and incredibly oppressive to women. I really believe that liberated women and informed citizens should be fighting against it rather than what often happens, where it is tacitly accepted and even somewhat supported, at sites like Boing Boing, which are very popular in the blogosphere. I really think if people understood the consequences of this more, they would realize that supporting or condoning pornography is antithetical to their interests.
Posted by: Carl Youngblood | Mar 26, 2007 4:37:34 PM
Yikes. Fresh from the hatery-- horrifying.
We at etech this week hope you find some relief, some justice, some light during this dark experience.
Posted by: greg biggers | Mar 26, 2007 4:37:45 PM
Kathy - don't let the bastards grind you down. No-one should get away with this, and I suspect that they won't either, thanks to your frankness.
As I write this I am even *more* shocked that there is not a response of any kind on any of the related blogs that you mention, nor on Blogher and so on.
And there I was thinking that we're all such a good bunch, all us lot at do's like SXSW who just want to have a good time and get along. I had no idea that you might have been dealing with this while speaking at SXSW just a couple of weeks ago.
Please do post again, and soon.
Posted by: Ian Lloyd | Mar 26, 2007 4:39:33 PM
Kathy,
when an elephant passes on the road, the dogs shout fearing the size of the elephant - Don't you let those dog barkings let you down. You rock! keep rocking! Don't let others giggle by letting yourself down. Keep writing! We love your posts.
- Deeps
Posted by: Deeps | Mar 26, 2007 4:42:22 PM
Sorry to hear it. There are a lot of sickos out there with nothing better to do. Don't let their words turn you into a prisoner. Hope they catch the bastard soon.
Posted by: Diana | Mar 26, 2007 4:42:47 PM
Kathy,
My God... I'm almost speechless with anger at the idiots who did this. This is so far beyond the line that it's not even funny. Please hang in there, do what you feel is best for yourself and yours.. but report this to the police. I don't care if this results in the jailing of Locke, Paynter and Sessums... If they were involved in this or in enabling it, they should pay. The posters should pay. To allow some %^#%#%^ to get away with this is intolerable. This kind of thing simply cannot be tolerated at all.
I hope you eventually return to posting. I totally understand if you don't. Take care.
Posted by: rick gregory | Mar 26, 2007 4:42:59 PM
Add me to the list of people who are peeved at the pathetic slimeballs who do this sort of thing. It's not new (I was the target of death threats in zinedom 20 years ago, before we all moved to the internet), but it's no fun when it happens. Do what you need to do, and know that the vast majority of us out here are good people, with no patience or tolerance for the idiots.
Posted by: Mike Gunderloy | Mar 26, 2007 4:45:44 PM
Utterly stuck for words... what the hell is the matter with (supposedly intelligent) people? For god's sake. I am very sorry you've had to go through this, and hope everything works out well for you.
Posted by: Ben Poole | Mar 26, 2007 4:46:05 PM
I just wanted to tell you how much I love this blog and your work, Kathy. I went to digg to submit this blog post, but someone beat me to it. Hopefully, we can get more people to notice this appalling, inexcusable behavior and have these juvenile jerks ousted from the tech community.
Take whatever time you need, but I really hope (selfishly that) you come back to us. I'm not even a software developer, just a nonprofit accidental techie with an increasing love of ui, and I find endless inspiration in this blog. It's gotten to the point where my news reader has all of these old, unrefreshed posts from you in it because there's too much useful information for me to know what to do with. :-) My deli.icio.us could easily be populated by your blog posts.
I just visited today because I wanted to pass on a link to yet another friend. I was so shocked, saddened and incensed by what I found. Please know that you have way more faceless people out there, like me, who support you and the work you do through this blog and by the presentations you give. You're a stellar example of what it means to be of service in this world. We need voices like yours out there.
Posted by: NotAwesome | Mar 26, 2007 4:46:09 PM
I am shocked and saddened to hear what you are going through and admire your courage for speaking out. I just wanted to add my name to this growing list of people who hopefully prove that there are still more good people than bad in the world.
Posted by: Sharon | Mar 26, 2007 4:47:06 PM
not only should you take them to civil court, if you do feel threatened, you should talk to your local Law Enforcement department
Posted by: Alex Piner | Mar 26, 2007 4:48:21 PM
Hey Kathy, Keep strong and don't stop doing what you're passionate about simply because a few mindless individuals (there are a lot of them in the world) don't like it. Hope to read another one of your great posts again soon.
All the best,
Theo
Posted by: Theo Tonca | Mar 26, 2007 4:50:27 PM
I am absolutely dumbfounded by this.
I am at a loss for words, and have no idea what I would do in your situation.
All I can tell you is that I stand with you, shoulder to damn shoulder against the filth and mysogyny that you've born witness to. And if there is *anything* that I can do to support you, then I will. I can only begin to imagine what it's been like for you.
All of us who are standing up and claiming our identities as thinking women are putting our heads above the parapet. Not one of us should be subjected to the moronic outbursts of a pathetic few scared, ignorant, weak minded bullies who seem to think they have the right to abuse.
I hope the number of messages here is heartening. You are not, by a long, long chalk, alone.
Posted by: Cait Hurley | Mar 26, 2007 4:52:09 PM
Vile. Grotesque. Horrifying. Incomprehensible.
Kathy, as I read your post, I could feel your fear, and the fear began to well up inside me. I was moved to the point of tears, and I can't begin to express in words how sorry I am that you have to endure such a thing.
I truly hope you don't give up blogging. Your blog is a precious resources, and it would be a tragedy to lose it. Please know that you have friends out here who will not tolerate this kind of crap and will stand with you in pushing back against it.
Stay strong.
Posted by: Jeff | Mar 26, 2007 4:53:28 PM
Absolutely outraged that this has been happening, and completely amazed at the strength you have to post about it. Even now, you still inspire. Hang in there.
Posted by: Mack Collier | Mar 26, 2007 4:53:44 PM
I'm so sorry to hear about this. I really don't know what to say. I posted on my blog, and I am really glad to see the support for you here, on Twitter, and in my reader. I just hope that the conversation thats about to happen turns productive.
JD
Posted by: Jame Deville | Mar 26, 2007 4:54:50 PM
Kathy,
I'm so terribly sorry to hear this is happening. I feel helpless myself, but I'm doing what I can to spread the word in the hopes that awareness will help.
Best of luck - and thanks for sharing this info, rather than hiding it, so hopefully people can work on a solution.
Posted by: Don MacAskill | Mar 26, 2007 4:54:50 PM
Sorry to hear you have to go through all that. I find hard to imagine what could be going through your head right now and there is probably little I can say that would help. I hope it gets better and you find it enjoyable to go out in the world again as soon as possible.
Be well.
PS: love the blogs, been reading them for a while now. Would love to hear any of your speeches.
Posted by: Yann | Mar 26, 2007 4:55:02 PM
Kathy,
Be strong.
Trust law enforcement. They know what they're doing.
We'll work on fixing the culture of the internet.
If you need help of any kind, ask.
Posted by: Christopher Mahan | Mar 26, 2007 4:55:19 PM
Tech t-shirts aren't sexy enough
I followed some link off some Gnome blog, and honestly, I wasn't quite sure about this blog after reading this. Sure, it made sense, but it also sounded... I don't know... A bit silly.
The "Dumbness of Crowds"
Another link from another gnome blog, but this time, I loved your post! It just made so much sence! I have since used that post to back up my argumentation in at least one discussion.
Code like a Girl
I found that post among the "Past favourites", and I was stuck. Ever since, this place have been one of my favourite blogs. Almost every new post makes me go "isn't that obvious?" only to follow up with "well, I still don't do it". The posts are great fun to read, while also making sometimes difficult issues seem simple.
I've never heard of any of the people you mention in this post, so I guess I'm not part of the blogosphere. Still, I wanted (like LOADS of other people, apparently) to tell you that I hope this will have a happy ending, give you my support, and - if you won't post anything more - thank you for this time.
Posted by: Robin Sonefors | Mar 26, 2007 4:55:35 PM
Just another voice from the wilderness expressing his disgust at what's happened to you.
Do what you need to do to feel safe, and let the cops come down like a ton of bricks on whoever they can find.
Wishing you strength;
Paul
Posted by: Light & Dark | Mar 26, 2007 5:01:08 PM
I can't wrap my head around it. I really, really can't.
Other than news, I ready two blogs daily - and yours is the first. I've never commented, but I do print them out and post them around the office. :)
I just can't fathom how some people's minds work (don't work?).
Hope you're doing OK.
Posted by: Diana C | Mar 26, 2007 5:02:16 PM
Hi Kathy,
I found your site via some other sites that shall remain nameless, and yet - I'm happy to let anyone hang out at my site. I doubt I have that much interesting material for them. Having not spent a lot of time at your site, I can't see a lot of objectionable material which others might find contentious. If they found it contentious, what should they do? Tell Tim Berners-Lee (Sir Tim, if you please)?
I don't mean to sound unconcerned, but if you appeared in public to speak in the capacity which you appear to be an expert in, to an audience with which is interested in the subject matter,.... personally, I'd go for it. Can I speak on the topic in your place?
Probably not the kind of response you wanted, but my deep seated sense of justice pushes me to a philosophical decision to always give a clear and concise testimony, regardless of the consequences.
All the best,
Reckless Ricardo
Posted by: Richard Sheppard | Mar 26, 2007 5:02:34 PM
Kathy, it is impossible for me to imagine what would cause anyone to threaten you in this manner - or for that matter, what could cause anyone to develop even a mild dislike for you. That it appears to have originated from some of the blogosphere's "stars" is all the more baffling. It would be a terrible loss to all of us to have your voice silenced. I know it is probably small comfort, but you obviously have many thousands of supporters against this handful of detractors. There just is no way to explain or account for such aberrant human behavior. I hope all these messages of support can provide comfort and courage through this ordeal.
Posted by: Wayne Kovsky | Mar 26, 2007 5:04:08 PM
I don't condone violence against women nor this type of reprehensible anonymous threatening activity.
Certainly there are many routes for ensuring your personal safety at conferences and in your personal life.
Just remember that if you are going to stay home and avoid the public for a while to not watch Oprah or eat chocolate.
Posted by: John Umbrax | Mar 26, 2007 5:04:37 PM
This is sickening, shameful, sad and horrifying and, until today, I would have thought unimaginable.
Thinking of you, Kathy -- from New Zealand. Kia kaha
Posted by: Blondini | Mar 26, 2007 5:05:53 PM
I don't even know what to say. I just read about this in shock. This is so sad to read about. I don't even know how to react.
Posted by: C.C. Chapman | Mar 26, 2007 5:06:15 PM
I am absolutely appalled at your situation, Kathy. I saw you speak at SXSW last year and was very impressed with what I heard. I understand that some people may be less impressed with your research and the impact it has on your books, or maybe they're just jealous of your success, and that's all fine and well, but to take something like that and twist it into this is just beyond the pale. I hope that whoever is responsible pays the price and that your sense of safety can be restored.
Posted by: ralph | Mar 26, 2007 5:06:31 PM
I wanted to join the chorus of support for you. You are a terrific blogger and the community will lose something important if you have to stop posting. You have to take care of yourself and do what is right for you though, and if that means not posting, so be it. I am completely shocked and so sorry that you have to go through this. I sincerely hope that you can find a good resolution for these problems.
Posted by: Christy Tucker | Mar 26, 2007 5:06:40 PM
I hope you can find strength, and courage over time to continue or this person/group will have won. I am really sorry. It sent chills through me reading this. Please do not let them win. All my prayers are with you and let me know if there is anything I can do or rather we can do.
Posted by: Cindy Li | Mar 26, 2007 5:07:29 PM
Kathy: hang in there. We love you, love your posts. We care about you and we want you to come back to the blogosphere. Hang in there. Utterly stuck for words but wanted to tell you that you matter to us and we want to see you back and your contribution to the 'sphere is immense.
Posted by: Leila Boujnane | Mar 26, 2007 5:07:39 PM
Kathy, this is terrible. I hope someone exposes the creep so that we all know who he is and can make sure that he doesn't get away with doing this. There's no excuse for it. Trolls always save their worst vitriol for women, too. Kudos for having the bravery to go public with this.
Cory
Posted by: Cory Doctorow | Mar 26, 2007 5:08:49 PM
I'm very sorry you're going through this. I've had two similar (but much smaller-scaled -- I'm not that important!) attacks, one because of a blog post that resulted in an anonymous hatemonger sending a life-threatening letter to my house, another on my wiki, where someone advocated I should be s***mized to death, and then insulted my children, too. People who say "sticks & stones etc." and that "words can never hurt me" forget that it's a child's version of whistling in the dark. In a nutshell, this is serious stuff and it's no surprise that you feel violated. But you're ok, and you'll still be ok years from now when the sickos who did this have made a TOTAL ruin of their lives. (That they're already partially ruined is obvious.)
I'm also really sorry because I used to know that blog crowd a bit, a couple of years ago. After I realized how unwell that whole group was, I left. Well, I was kicked out, too. They don't like independent thinkers, I can tell you that.
You're obviously an independent thinker, and a brilliant and popular one at that. That's why they hate you.
Have you gone to the police with this, by the way? I would. And I'd get a lawyer.
Posted by: Yule Heibel | Mar 26, 2007 5:09:31 PM
Another long time reader, first time poster here. This is really terrible. I hope the police bring those responsible to justice and you can put this behind you. I've always looked forward to reading your posts, you have great insight.
Take care,
Rich L.
Posted by: Rich L. | Mar 26, 2007 5:11:24 PM
Just last night I commented to a friend how blogs help to civilize the world. What a reality check. It is nice to see so many speaking out